So the journey begins….
This is my first attempt at a blog post, so bear with me if its hard to read or navigate around. I am not savvy with this stuff yet. Thank you all for your patience in advance.
The idea for my having a blog was some of the recent posts I had made on FB about things I have been going through. That post and several others got some good comments and a few people suggested that I start a blog. So here we are.
Currently, I seem to be in a rather transitional period in my life. Lots of changes going on, big and small, positive and ‘negative’. More on that ‘negative’ later on in the post. I will post my initial writing at some point in the near future. The title of this first post was inspired by a something a friend put on my Facebook page, saying that this phrase was in a fortune cookie she had and it made her think of me.
I am sitting in a cozy Air BnB place in Hardwick VT as I write this post, so its hard to think of fear sitting in such a place. Fear seems to be something everyone relates to these days. Aside from the primal fear when our lives are in danger and the ‘fight or flight’ instinct kicks in, we can learn a lot about ourselves from facing our fear. Usually fear comes from trying new things where we don’t know the outcome. Pushing outside our familiar place….the comfort zone. Change is hard for everyone. Its easy to take the path of least resistance, heck, its in our instincts as animals. The path of least resistance is built in from survival in the wild. In the wild there were lots of unknowns and threats and things to kill you every where, so conserving energy was key to survival. We don’t live in the wild anymore, and there are not predators everywhere. Ok, unless you are in reading this from overseas in combat.
Most of my fear lately has come from the big changes in my life, and not knowing what is on the other side of all the new things coming down the road for me in the near future. When I really sit down and think about it, if I get in a mindset of gratitude for everything I have, and the opportunities that lay before me, that fear does really change into excitement. So fear vs. excitement is really just the lens that I chose to look at the world with, its a choice. So is acting on the fear. Acting on the initial fear that comes up for a new opportunity can cause me to turn it down. At work in particular, I have never turned down a opportunity to work on something new, meet new people, etc. My initial reaction may be ‘no, I can’t do that. its too scary. I may screw it up’. Sometimes, its just taking time to breathe, and think about things before we give an instant answer is key to changing our perspective. It takes practice, like with anything, start small and work up to the heavy lifting.
Its really all a matter of perspective for me. Viewing something new as ‘opportunities to learn’, and going into whatever it is I am doing with that mind set. Failures are just opportunities on how NOT to do things. I no longer fear failure (for the most part – no one is perfect). As kids we were always excited to try new things, we weren’t generally afraid of new things. Maybe its more about putting a more child like perspective on new things. Life and adulthood has dirtied up our lens with self doubt and other negative messages we see and hear every day.
So start cleaning off the lens and change the focus from fear into excitement….